My causes

I am currently involved in various causes. The first is a petition to regulate, license, and treat midwives as we would any other health professional.

I have created a Loss Survey as I am rather curious as to what the statistics really say!

Lastly, I am getting started creating birth announcements and birth/death announcements. Announcements are free for bereaved parents. Any proceeds will go towards purchasing casting kits for bereavement programs at local hospitals. My hope is to be able to spread this ministry out and provide these to even more hospitals around the country, and possibly overseas. I would also like to have kits on hand for Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep Bereavement Photographers. If you are looking for any other type of announcement, Drop me a line and I will work with you. Contact me for more info !

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

I found an adorable blog!!

Cerebral Parenting

She is absolutely hilarious and right on with so many things!!

Sunday, December 14, 2008

CDC Info

I thought this would be pretty interesting. According to the CDC, for the years 2003-2004 there were a total of 4,112,055 births.
4,075,712 of these were in the hospital while 35,578 were out of the hospital and 765 births were not stated.

There were 27,489 deaths in the hospital, 364 out of the hospital, and 7 unstated.

This puts the hospital group at 6.74/1000, the out of hospital groups at 10.23/1000 and the last groups data was suppressed.

Out of the hospital groups are 1 1/5 times more likely to die than in hospital groups.

P07.2 (Extreme immaturity)Not in Hospital5335,5781.49
P07.3 (Other preterm infants)Not in Hospital2335,5780.65
P21.9 (Birth asphyxia, unspecified)Not in Hospital1635,578Suppressed
R95 (Sudden infant death syndrom - SIDS)Not in Hospital1635,578Suppressed
P29.1 (Neonatal cardiac dysrhythmia)Not in Hospital1435,578Suppressed
R99 (Other ill-defined and unspecified causes of mortality)Not in Hospital1235,578Suppressed
X91 (Assault by hanging, strangulation and suffocation)Not in Hospital1235,578Suppressed
P29.0 (Neonatal cardiac failure)Not in Hospital1135,578Suppressed
Q91.3 (Edwards' syndrome, unspecified)Not in Hospital935,578Suppressed
Q24.9 (Congenital malformation of heart, unspecified)Not in Hospital835,578Suppressed
P02.7 (Fetus and newborn affected by chorioamnionitis)Not in Hospital735,578Suppressed
P01.5 (Fetus and newborn affected by multiple pregnancy)Not in Hospital635,578Suppressed
P22.0 (Respiratory distress syndrome of newborn)Not in Hospital535,578Suppressed
P36.9 (Bacterial sepsis of newborn, unspecified)Not in Hospital535,578Suppressed
Y06.9 (By unspecified person)Not in Hospital535,578Suppressed
A41.9 (Septicaemia, unspecified)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
P28.0 (Primary atelectasis of newborn)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
P52.3 (Unspecified intraventricular (nontraumatic) haemorrhage of fetus and newborn)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
P77 (Necrotizing enterocolitis of fetus and newborn)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
Q89.9 (Congenital malformation, unspecified)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
X92 (Assault by drowning and submersion)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
Y09 (Assault by unspecified means)Not in Hospital435,578Suppressed
P01.1 (Fetus and newborn affected by premature rupture of membranes)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P03.0 (Fetus and newborn affected by breech delivery and extraction)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P03.5 (Fetus and newborn affected by precipitate delivery)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P03.9 (Fetus and newborn affected by complication of labour and delivery, unspecified)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P21.0 (Severe birth asphyxia)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P23.9 (Congenital pneumonia, unspecified)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
P80.9 (Hypothermia of newborn, unspecified)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
Q23.4 (Hypoplastic left heart syndrome)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
Q89.7 (Multiple congenital malformations, not elsewhere classified)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
Q90.9 (Down's syndrome, unspecified)Not in Hospital335,578Suppressed
B49 (Unspecified mycosis)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
J18.9 (Pneumonia, unspecified)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
N04.9 (Nephrotic syndrome, unspecified)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
P01.0 (Fetus and newborn affected by incompetent cervix)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
P01.8 (Fetus and newborn affected by other maternal complications of pregnancy)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
P25.1 (Pneumothorax originating in the perinatal period)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
P36.8 (Other bacterial sepsis of newborn)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
Q00.0 (Anencephaly)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
Q33.6 (Hypoplasia and dysplasia of lung)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
Q79.3 (Gastroschisis)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
Q91.7 (Patau's syndrome, unspecified)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
W74 (Unspecified drowning and submersion)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
W75 (Accidental suffocation and strangulation in bed)Not in Hospital235,578Suppressed
A41.5 (Septicaemia due to other Gram-negative organisms)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
B00.3 (Herpesviral meningitis (G02.0*))Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
B23.2 (HIV disease resulting in haematological and immunological abnormalities, not elsewhere classified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
B34.8 (Other viral infections of unspecified site)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
C85.9 (Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma, unspecified type)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
D18.1 (Lymphangioma, any site)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
D42.0 (Cerebral meninges)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
D84.9 (Immunodeficiency, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E27.4 (Other and unspecified adrenocortical insufficiency)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E46 (Unspecified protein-energy malnutrition)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E75.2 (Other sphingolipidosis)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E86 (Volume depletion)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E87.5 (Hyperkalaemia)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
E88.0 (Disorders of plasma-protein metabolism, not elsewhere classified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G12.0 (Infantile spinal muscular atrophy, type I [Werdnig-Hoffman])Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G12.9 (Spinal muscular atrophy, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G31.9 (Degenerative disease of nervous system, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G47.3 (Sleep apnoea)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G71.2 (Congenital myopathies)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
G91.9 (Hydrocephalus, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
I27.2 (Other secondary pulmonary hypertension)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
I28.8 (Other specified diseases of pulmonary vessels)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
J15.4 (Pneumonia due to other streptococci)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
J84.9 (Interstitial pulmonary disease, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
J98.4 (Other disorders of lung)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
K44.9 (Diaphragmatic hernia without obstruction or gangrene)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
K72.9 (Hepatic failure, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
K76.8 (Other specified diseases of liver)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
K76.9 (Liver disease, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
N17.9 (Acute renal failure, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P02.0 (Fetus and newborn affected by placenta praevia)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P02.1 (Fetus and newborn affected by other forms of placental separation and haemorrhage)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P02.4 (Fetus and newborn affected by prolapsed cord)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P02.6 (Fetus and newborn affected by other and unspecified conditions of umbilical cord)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P04.4 (Fetus and newborn affected by maternal use of drugs of addiction)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P07.0 (Extremely low birth weight)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P20.9 (Intrauterine hypoxia, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P26.9 (Unspecified pulmonary haemorrhage originating in the perinatal period)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P27.1 (Bronchopulmonary dysplasia originating in the perinatal period)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P28.1 (Other and unspecified atelectasis of newborn)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P28.5 (Respiratory failure of newborn)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P28.9 (Respiratory condition of newborn, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P35.1 (Congenital cytomegalovirus infection)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P36.1 (Sepsis of newborn due to other and unspecified streptococci)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P37.5 (Neonatal candidiasis)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P54.3 (Other neonatal gastrointestinal haemorrhage)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P54.9 (Neonatal haemorrhage, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P61.4 (Other congenital anaemias, not elsewhere classified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P78.0 (Perinatal intestinal perforation)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P96.8 (Other specified conditions originating in the perinatal period)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
P96.9 (Condition originating in the perinatal period, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q01.9 (Encephalocele, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q04.9 (Congenital malformation of brain, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q21.0 (Ventricular septal defect)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q21.1 (Atrial septal defect)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q25.0 (Patent ductus arteriosus)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q33.3 (Agenesis of lung)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q35.9 (Cleft palate, unspecified, unilateral)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q60.1 (Renal agenesis, bilateral)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q60.2 (Renal agenesis, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q60.6 (Potter's syndrome)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q61.3 (Polycystic kidney, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q61.4 (Renal dysplasia)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q63.9 (Congenital malformation of kidney, unspecified)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q67.8 (Other congenital deformities of chest)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q77.6 (Chondroectodermal dysplasia)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q79.0 (Congenital diaphragmatic hernia)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q84.2 (Other congenital malformations of hair)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Q99.8 (Other specified chromosome abnormalities)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
R62.8 (Other lack of expected normal physiological development)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
R98 (Unattended death)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
V49.5 (Passenger injured in collision with other and unspecified motor vehicles in traffic accident)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
X99 (Assault by sharp object)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Y07.1 (By parent)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed
Y33 (Other specified events, undetermined intent)Not in Hospital135,578Suppressed

The CDC clearly shows all data and it all points to the fact that having an infant at home DOES increase death to the child.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Getting medical information

Seeking advice online in a group is fine. BUT let's remember that the people we talk to are NOT dr's or really all that educated. You may be egged on to go unassisted or to have a high risk delivery at home. This, my friends, is flirting with disaster. Please do not base your decisions upon what regular people say. They are NOT the ones who will live with the consequences of something happening. God forbid something happens to your baby, you hear "I'm sorry for your loss" and see a bunch of fake candles, then you are to be silent and not speak again. You and your deceased baby will be nothing to them. They are not going to listen or support you in your grief. When you bring it up, you will be given reasons why it was just a fluke. That is if they even let you post anything having to do with your loss. I urge you to look inside yourselves and do what is in the best interest of your baby, not a bunch of faceless people who don't know or care for you. Seriously, our comfort means NOTHING, our wants and desires mean NOTHING. All that matters is having a healthy living baby. The greatest birth experience in the world means nothing when your baby is in ashes on a shelf or 6 feet in the cold hard ground. Babies die. Those who think it won't happen to them, well it can. I don't care if you are low risk. Your baby can die and the chances are MUCH higher at home than in a hospital. No transfer doesn't mean squat, it means that your baby will have been at risk for longer. In a hospital, emergencies can be handled immediately. At home, they can't. Some problems cannot be anticipated. Things do just happen. Please consider your babies. I thought I was considering mine, but she is gone now. No amount of fake candles or I'm sorries will bring her back or erase the pain I feel every single day. Homebirth isn't worth it. And those who make such a huge deal about it, really don't care about your or your baby!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

I totally forgot

At one point I had created a forum and forgot about it. If anyone is interested, it's at

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Things that trip me out

I have to say this. I am so tired of people who are so hellbent on holding onto a passion that they alienate and isolate others because of it. I am against homebirth BUT will not end a friendship over it. When I was a homebirther, I was in the hospital for the birth of my niece (natural vaginal delivery) and my nephew (emergency c-section for breech presentation). Would I alienate either parents for their birth choice, no. I am pro breastfeeding, but would never chastise a woman who didn't breastfeed till their kid went to kindergarten (*insert sarcasm*). If a mom gives it a shot, that's great. If she chooses not to, at least she is feeding her baby. If a woman circs or doesn't circ, it's none of my business and I won't treat her like she is a lesser person for not doing one or the other. If someone chooses to swat their child's butt or not, it's not my business. If I don't agree with the reason for the discipline, I will speak up but that parent can make the decsion to do what they want and in the end, it's still none of my business. I won't stop talking to a mother because *gasp* her three year old isn't rear facing in their britax. As long as you are using a safety seat properly, that is wonderful. When will parents mind their own business and stop trying to parent everybody elses kid?? Unless the child is being starved, abused , or neglected, leave other people alone to parent their child that they conceived, carried, and birthed. When will moms stop acting like piranhas ready to tear other mothers to shreds for not doing something their way??? What's funny is these are the moms who gripe about people not liking their choices yet sit there and condemn others. We are all mothers doing what we think is best for our children, point blank.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

BabyCenter Group

I have created a group on babycenter just for moms who either were planning a homebirth or had a homebirth and lost their baby. I know I am not the only one!