My causes

I am currently involved in various causes. The first is a petition to regulate, license, and treat midwives as we would any other health professional.

I have created a Loss Survey as I am rather curious as to what the statistics really say!

Lastly, I am getting started creating birth announcements and birth/death announcements. Announcements are free for bereaved parents. Any proceeds will go towards purchasing casting kits for bereavement programs at local hospitals. My hope is to be able to spread this ministry out and provide these to even more hospitals around the country, and possibly overseas. I would also like to have kits on hand for Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep Bereavement Photographers. If you are looking for any other type of announcement, Drop me a line and I will work with you. Contact me for more info !

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Things that trip me out

I have to say this. I am so tired of people who are so hellbent on holding onto a passion that they alienate and isolate others because of it. I am against homebirth BUT will not end a friendship over it. When I was a homebirther, I was in the hospital for the birth of my niece (natural vaginal delivery) and my nephew (emergency c-section for breech presentation). Would I alienate either parents for their birth choice, no. I am pro breastfeeding, but would never chastise a woman who didn't breastfeed till their kid went to kindergarten (*insert sarcasm*). If a mom gives it a shot, that's great. If she chooses not to, at least she is feeding her baby. If a woman circs or doesn't circ, it's none of my business and I won't treat her like she is a lesser person for not doing one or the other. If someone chooses to swat their child's butt or not, it's not my business. If I don't agree with the reason for the discipline, I will speak up but that parent can make the decsion to do what they want and in the end, it's still none of my business. I won't stop talking to a mother because *gasp* her three year old isn't rear facing in their britax. As long as you are using a safety seat properly, that is wonderful. When will parents mind their own business and stop trying to parent everybody elses kid?? Unless the child is being starved, abused , or neglected, leave other people alone to parent their child that they conceived, carried, and birthed. When will moms stop acting like piranhas ready to tear other mothers to shreds for not doing something their way??? What's funny is these are the moms who gripe about people not liking their choices yet sit there and condemn others. We are all mothers doing what we think is best for our children, point blank.


Erica said...

I am all on board with how you feel. I've lost very close friends over how I raise our daughter. I didn't think it was honestly any of their business, but they made it that way! Something that works for one person, won't work for another. We just all have to figure out what works great, and not put others down for not following "what we think" is right! (I was just going to post on breastfeeding hehe)

Mrs. P said...

Ya know, I think those almost exact thoughts on a regular basis. There's enough hard feelings and division in the world, why add to it over parenting philosphies? KWIM?

(btw, totally almost wet my pants laughing over the RF in a Britax comment...oh yeah)

Marge said...

I had this stuff happen when my son had cancer. I finally got to the point of telling these well meaning people that they can do everything "right" when it's THEIR child that has cancer. That finally made them shut up.

I agree that parenting that is a very individual thing and we can respect each other while holding onto our passions.